I believe that in relationships, there is true love if, and only if, over the course of the relationship, there is progression on the part of both people. Something should come out of partnership, and a relationship is not any different.
I'm speaking on this from a perspective of outside-looking-in - others should be able to look at a relationship and notice changes in each partner, for the better. Whether it be a better job, a more advanced level of education, personal changes - less selfish, more patient, getting over past hurts - etc, either way a positive difference should be noticeable. I feel like love is such a powerful force that when it is present, there is no denying it. It should make everything better, like a "Midas Touch."
When you really love someone, you want the best for them and vice versa. You should also be the best version of yourself when you are giving and receiving love that is appropriate. There should be a focus on moving ahead and doing better. When you are not focused on trust issues, insecurity, pointless arguments, and communication blocks, you have time to look at your life and start moving towards the things you really want. You also have the energy to address your partner's needs and wants.
The focus of your relationship is very clear from an outsider's perspective; if you've been in a relationship for months and even years, and there has been only a minimum amount of progression - something small that would have happened anyway (you were in school and now you've finished) - then you aren't in a relationship that is demonstrating what real and true love looks like.
What do you think? Is there a correlation between Love and Personal Progression? Can people say they are in love if there are no positive changes?
This post is something I have been debating all week...
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